Anxiety in Children

When you were a child, you likely spent your days playing outside with friends, exploring your neighbourhood, and having a school life without the constant presence of social media or overwhelming access to information. The challenges you faced were real, but they were largely confined to the physical world around you. However, children today encounter different and significantly more complex challenges that extend far beyond what previous generations experienced.

Research suggests that at least 30% of children and teens between the ages of 12 and 18 in India are suffering from depression and anxiety. 

In this blog, we’ll explore the causes and symptoms of anxiety in children, along with what you, as a parent, can do to help your child overcome anxiety.

Children today face not only traditional stressors but also unique challenges in our digital, hyperconnected world:

1. Social media: Constant exposure to idealized images on social media fosters feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem, leading to anxiety as children struggle to meet these unrealistic standards.

2. Global awareness: Early exposure to negative news and global events, like natural disasters and pandemics, fuels fear and helplessness, adding to their anxiety about broader societal issues.

3. Academic pressure: The intensified focus on academic success creates chronic stress, as children feel the weight of high expectations from parents, teachers, and themselves, contributing to anxiety and mental health issues.

4. Family dynamics: Instability from changes like divorce or parental separation, combined with critical or controlling parenting styles and high parental expectations, exacerbates anxiety, especially if children feel they cannot meet these demands.

Anxiety symptoms to look out for:

1. Physical symptoms like headaches, stomachaches, or unexplained pains.

2. Increased irritability, frequent crying, or excessive worry about everyday activities.

3. Avoidance of school and other social situations, indicating social anxiety.

4. Changes in sleep patterns, such as difficulty falling asleep or frequent nightmares.

5. A sudden drop in grades or trouble concentrating.

6. Withdrawal from friends and activities they once enjoyed.

7. While this is not a comprehensive list, these signs often indicate that a child may be struggling with anxiety or other emotional challenges and could benefit from professional support.

As a parent, adopting a conscious parenting approach can greatly support your child's emotional well-being, especially when dealing with anxiety.  Start by setting realistic expectations, understanding that each child develops at their own pace. Avoid putting pressure on them to meet certain standards or comparing them to others. Create a supportive environment where your child feels safe to express their emotions without judgement. Encourage open communication and validate their feelings, helping them develop healthy coping mechanisms.

1. Discuss the difference between real life and social media, and help them focus on their strengths instead of comparing themselves to others online.

2. Limit screen time and encourage non-digital activities, for instance, set a daily limit of 1 hour for social media and have designated time to go outdoors or read instead.

3. Monitor the information your child consumes, and offer age-appropriate explanations for news and events for reassurance that they are safe and to prevent overwhelm.

4. Encourage them to make decisions based on their values, not just fitting in. Practice saying no confidently through role-playing.

5. Model healthy coping strategies, as children often mimic their parents’ behaviours. For instance, when you’re stressed, show your child how you take a break, breathe deeply, or talk about your feelings calmly.

6. Introduce relaxation techniques and meditation for anxiety, for instance, teach your child to take three deep breaths whenever they start to feel anxious.

Taking proactive steps to support your child’s mental health is crucial, especially in today’s challenging environment. Remember that while there are strategies that can be helpful, professional support may be necessary if your child's anxiety persists or mental health issues worsen. Seeking help from a mental health professional can provide your child with the tools and guidance they need to manage anxiety effectively, ensuring they grow up with resilience and confidence.